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Ok.. I Left It!

OK,I Left It!

By Jacquelyn Hughes Mooney ©11

"It is my experience that when people say "what you see is what you get", they actually mean "I am narrow minded, rigid, smart ass and not willing to compromise, neither will I learn anything, I am all knowing and wise and I know better on every subject - take it or leave it!"....okie dokie, I will leave it"!~Ria Grobler,artist-South Africa

 

It was one of those morning when I arose very early, not out of fits of sleep but because I got enough sleep, so the synapses are working... 

 

I figure I would get a jump start of several things that have to be completed by tomorrow some of which did not get accomplished yesterday due to other people not upholding their end of what they were suppose to do. 

I warn you, this is not a rant. This is about leaving. 

We have probably all have heard someone or even ourselves say something similar to "this is just how I am, take it or leave it"... Two things stand out ; the word "just" and "take it or leave it". The latter is said with some sense of pride or perhaps defiance as if they have now done something well. Has anyone ever thought that "just" may not be good enough? Not acceptable, minimize you? And the order to take or leave gives the invitee a choice, one that you may not like? 

As in OK, I'll leave it.  What or where you are (or I) is not acceptable for me.   I would prefer not to be bothered with it.  I no longer have any expectations you will do the right thing, but refuse  to condone what  is unacceptable.  If it's working for you & apparently it must as you keep on doing it, but do I? 

When it is we talking to me (my giving myself permission to minimize my awesomeness) it is a lazy co-op designed to allow me not to be awesome at least for today. Or even for a minute. It is usually F.E.A.R based (False Expectations Appearing Real). Can I do this? Can I change my health? Can I readjust my eating patterns? Can I dare to see myself as beloved & beautiful? Can I see other people as being humanely flawed as not having all the answers? That their thoughts are their own & does not necessarily reflect MY experiences or relevance? Can I disregard other people's opinion of me? Does their approval really matter as much as I have made it? 

Can I be my best ally? 

Can I? 

Can I? 

Can I? 

Yes we can... It takes W.I.S.D.O.M (When I Seriously Decide On More). I cannot take credit for this, this nugget came from my son who decided (ah maturity is a wonderful thing) who decided he wanted more. 

More not necessarily in a monetary way, but want more for his life, not from shrinkage from shirking what he knew he must do and working to that end. 

In a number of discussion with a many a passionate people, I've come to notice (mind you this my experience) that some people are or can be  bound & intent to make ensure that his view was it... the ultimate, case closed. Take it or leave it. Some of that comes from indeed passion, a singular vision, the belief that what they say is it, take or leave it... I appreciate seeing ones active in working toward an end that their vision until they become so adament that unless you submit to ti you will be slammed .  Take it or leave it can be a wonderful suggestion to take under advisement...

So, I took it...

Then I left it... 

I cite this example to say that while weighing all the "facts", passions & climate in which people become so narrow minded I/you/ we may decide that it  not worthwhile, in fact counter-productive to continue any discussion or action we may take, then we or others may flex their collective muscle & take another action. Too often women are expected to conform  too many times never daring to question, look at differently, do ably which was bad enough but  we also have to be awe struck at the "they" wisdom. 

Whomever the "they" may be...

I speak to as a woman.  I do not have the feelings or thoughts of a man, so it would be presumptuous  of me to speak to that, so I will help to save you the leap of judgement (unless you've already done it) to think I am being combative or speaking about men...

I am not.

I wasn't... 

 

But it did indeed make me think about how the "take it or leave it" mindset can adversely affect people from being their full awesomeness. If you read  any  on  others successes , the ones who have attained their goals or close to attainment, do not have the "take it or leave it" approach. There is enough flexibility & resiliency with a dash of humor as they look forward even when the misery of falling down happens. 

Others, their words show more rigidity,a learned helplessness, a variation & continuation of "that's just the way I am" then wondering why the results they are looking for does not happen. 

Well it won't. 

Please know I am not sitting on a throne, condemning anyone about whatever approach they take. I am writing from a purely observational standpoint.   In fact, I've done it myself. Yet , I do hold up a magnifying glass

to myself frequently applying to myself peering into whether or not I am applying W.I.S.D.O.M

 (When I Seriously Decide On More)...

. 

I have called myself into check with kindness for all my flawed awesomness. Some days are good, others even better, some days rotten, well maybe not rotten but not where I want it to be. 

(OK that are my flaws talking).   

Earlier in this blog I spoke of needing to get a jump start on some things I have to get done by tomorrow some of which needed to have been finished yesterday, but because of others not upholding their end of the bargain, so when it did not happen, I have to find another plan.  Part of the plan was I left it! 

I could have really grumble and rant but what good would that have done other then raised my blood pressure which would not  be good. These ones had a take it or leave it posture & one is suppose to be alright with it. 

Well I'm not.   I will leave it,  care of it myself. It threw today off for me but it is necessary that I care for it. So my sense is doing what they failed to do, I discovered a side benefit burnt extra calories, gaining a little more strength, getting it done, self-gratification in  the results.  Seeing it this way will keep me from grumbling wasting precious energy on rigidity.   I leave it as I will know never to have any expectations from them to do what was right.  They indeed said "take it or leave it", so it is prudent , necessary for me  give the"take it or leave it" folks plenty of room,  not be part of my package, my team of allies. 

Houston, I left the building... 

There will not be an army of farm animals coming to dine at the table after the little red hen did the work. They will not get to savor the fruits of my baking the bread. They will have to go find another table. 

I have P.E.A.C.E ( Positive Energy Activating Constant Elevation). 

So I took it & left... 

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Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it. ~Author Unknown

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It sticks to you...

Fable of the porcupine

It was the coldest winter ever and many animals died because of the cold.

Some porcupines, realizing the gravity of the situation, decided to group together to share warmth.

This way they were better covered and protected; however - the quills of each one wounded their closest companions.

After a while they decided to distance themselves one from the other and soon after they began to die, alone and frozen.

So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth.

Wisely, they decided to go back to being together.

They learned to accept the little wounds that were caused by these close relationships, in order to benefit from what their companions offered.
It was this way that they were able to survive and thrive.

Moral of the story:

The best relationships are not ones that bring together perfect beings, but are instead ones where individuals learn to live with the imperfections of others and can still accept the gifts they have to offer.

All I Could Say~Adding my Voice,Haiti

I saw for the 1st time today some of the heart rending images coming out of the capital...


I had not been able before today see them as know how tender my heart is & could not look, not then, not now, especially having gone through my absolutely pale by comparison trials myself. I thoght it would be too much...

It is too much...
And I am only an observer...

For me, it would trivilize more then I would want to compare the two situations or say as many may have already said, that it humbled me or made me see my situation differently.

I saw the face of this man, who knew hs wife was dead in the rubble and would not leave her side, keeping vigil with tears running down his face and the 1st words of this poem shouted out in my head.

It is a small thing but it is all I could say...




All I Could Say~Through His Tears
All I Can Say à travers ses larmes

By Jacquelyn Hughes Mooney ©10



Through his tears
Know you are no t alone…
Some will tsk, tsk, tsk
Many will groan
Some will weaken while another grow strong
In the midst of the unbelievable…
Incomprehensible
Mind shattering
Earth rattling
Testifying
Soul-filled wails…
In a crescendo scale rippling around the world
Know you are not alone…
Even in His tears…
And ours…
You will not be forsaken…
This time the world is not only listening
They are hearing
We shall…
We must
Yes we can...
We have to…
For the next time…
It may be us.
For Haiti and all of us worldwide
.. God help us all….

Happy trails...~S'More

Joy to the World

Rediscover Who You Are
Read full article at:

http://www.oprah.com/article/spirit/knowyourself/ss_lybl_letgo_201

I so love this exerpt. So now I have to see my own Joy List...

Create a "What I Enjoy" List

As simple as this may sound, it is very important for you to make one. This list should include everything that brings you pleasure and passion in life.

If you aren't sure what brings you joy right now, think back to what used to bring you joy?

This may require some exploration, but what did you do when you were a little kid that brought a smile on your face? Did you used to go horseback riding? Walk outside in a garden?

Whatever it may be, write it down.

This list doesn't mean that you have to do them every day. It's just to make you aware that there are things in the world that do make you feel alive. If you are able to do something you enjoy at least once a week, do it and help yourself feel alive in that moment.

You have to behave the way you want to feel before you feel the way you are behaving! It's about opening yourself up to a new experience, or something that you stopped doing.

Try to rediscover what it feels like to look or feel differently from the "not enoughness" you have been putting into your head for a long time now.

When you start doing this you will launch yourself back into aliveness!

Now some of myJoys to the World List:

1.Travel
2. My Moon Garden
3. The Color Purple; Seven Pounds; The Curious Life & Times of Benjamin Button /Divine Secrets of The Ya Ya Sisterhood movies
4.j.California Cooper/Tina McElroy Ansa/ Alice Walker books
5. Good perfumes and perfumed candles
6. Laughter
7. Home decorating
8.Creating art;writing;dance
9.Beautiful jewelry
10. Reading
11. Spending time with people I care about.
12 Shopping at antique stores, thrifts & yard sales.
13. Collecting recipes.
14. Clear nights seeing the stars & the Moon
15 Early mornings
16. Good conversations
17 Smoked oysters on crackers with cream cheese and wine.
18. Cream white Calla lillies, French tulips ;hydragneas', spider zinnias, fushias, irises & impatients
19. Slupees & crunchy Cheetoes
20. Mexican food.
21. Change.